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Get in besties, we're crashing out about skinny tok.

But before we get started, I want to be able to keep this newsletter free so PLEASE do some clicky clicks on the linky links.

It's no secret the rise of overly thin fashion has flooded our feeds over the last year or so. Before you cancel me, I am an advocate of ALL bodies, what I am not an advocate of is deciding that only some of those bodies are worthy of love.

I recently came across someone on my For You Page on tiktok telling women to "act their weight", and if you were over 160lbs, you had no business having an attitude.

I could be witty and make a funny comment about how I could act my weight and sit on her, but truly, I am simply tired.

Exhausted really.

As someone who has lost 80lbs, recomped my body a few times and has spent a good deal of time learning to love my body-- being a woman does not get less exhausting ever.

We are taught from such young ages to be ashamed of our bodies, of our stretch marks, of our extra skin, of ourselves.

I need us to talk about SkinnyTok. Because the resurgence of hyper-thinness culture online feels less like a trend and more like a symptom of the political climate we're all living in. And what makes it especially sinister is how “wellness coded” it all is now.

Wellness looks different on everyone, yet...here we are, again.

Everything is about:

Have you never had a hot dog????

The language is is ED coded, and the algorithm keeps pushing, and not just to my page, but to the ages of people much more vulnerable than me. A lot of this content is just eating disorder culture wearing alo leggings and neutral color palettes.

It's also a dog whistle for white supremacy, eurocentric beauty standards always have been.

And before someone screams about health: Yes, movement matters. Yes, nutrition matters. Yes, caring for your body matters

But every body has their own body and you're not their doctor.

Health looks different on every single body.

But there is a difference between caring for your body and constantly punishing it for existing. A lot of people are not pursuing wellness. They are pursuing social acceptability.

What makes me the saddest is watching people talk about their bodies like they are enemies, like if they just hate it enough it will change, and i've been there, i mean, heck, I am still coaching myself out of doing that. But now we're promoting it as a way to "get thin".

We were never meant to think about our bodies, our bellies, our stretch marks this much.

We are not projects to fix. We aren't failures. Your body is not a burden, it is the vehicle carrying you through life. It is the longest owned piece of real estate you have, love on it, take care of it, but do not set it on fire in spite of yourself.

It deserves kindness, even on the days you don’t feel beautiful in it, and maybe even a little more on those days.

I also think we have to acknowledge how quickly the internet rewards visible shrinking. People will compliment weight loss before they ask if you’re okay. The algorithm LOVES a body transformation story. Even when the “before” picture was just a person existing peacefully.

I am tired.

I'm tired of questioning my own body because I can't help but compare it. I feel like my relationship with my body has only become more complicated through out my fitness journey.

I am the most self conscious I've ever been. I am the most critical of myself I have ever been.

And why? Because no matter how hard I work, I am not the beauty standard.

I’m tired of women inheriting generations of body shame disguised as the idea that we are not enough as is, it's bullshit. I’m tired of watching people spend their entire lives trying to become smaller in every possible way.

Smaller appetites. Smaller needs. Smaller emotions. Smaller bodies. Smaller personalities.

I want to take up space, i want you to take up space.

Because we all deserve to be seen.

Eat the pasta. Buy clothes that fit the body you have now. Wear the bikini. Move because it makes you feel strong or grounded or alive, not because you’re trying to earn your worth back.

You cannot hate yourself into someone you love, I promise.

You don’t have to fully love your body every second for these to matter. Sometimes neutrality and gentleness are more honest than forced positivity.

I am big on body neutrality, or at least I'm trying to be. Some things I say to myself that really help are:

The political noise around trans people is loud, but the day-to-day consequences are even louder. Bryce River Jordan-Celotto, M.A.T. joins us to get brutally honest about what it feels like to live at the intersections as a Black queer transgender man in 2026 while public fear-mongering ramps up and basic safety gets treated like something you have to earn.

We talk about Bryce’s last 12 to 18 months, including a sudden layoff from a tech role centered on belonging, ERGs, and equity and inclusion strategy, followed by a job search that stretches far longer than anyone plans for. That path also leads from Seattle to Florida, and we unpack what “access” actually means when trans-affirming healthcare, employment protections, and community support vary wildly by state.

Along the way, we challenge the lazy storyline that the South is a monolith and the privileged advice to “just leave.”We also go deep on trans athletes and why sports became a culture-war target, even when the facts do not match the panic. Bryce shares personal experience as a former trans college athlete and as a culture strategist who planned a sellout MLB Pride Night designed to expand visibility and community connection.

Then we zoom out to the bigger idea: a lot of anti-trans rhetoric is really about policing gender expression for everyone, rooted in colonial history and rigid norms that harm far more than trans people.

If you want a Pride Month mindset that lasts past June, this is your roadmap: humanize, learn the history, and use your power to hire, pay, and protect.

Crash Out With Me Live:

Hot flashes in leadership meetings. Brain fog in the middle of presentations. Standing in your closet at 7am trying on five different outfits because suddenly nothing fits a body you don’t fully recognize anymore. And somehow we still call it burnout.

This Crash Out is about the stack: peri, mental health, body image, workplace performance, and the impossible expectation that women should continue functioning at full capacity while their bodies, hormones, and support systems are all shifting at once.

Joining me is Talia Edmundson, SPHR , an HR leader with two decades of experience scaling teams through hypergrowth, private equity transitions, and the kind of people challenges that never make the press release.

After helping grow RevZilla from 40 employees to nearly 500 and being named Delaware Valley HR Person of the Year, Talia launched HRnB Consulting, bringing senior-level people strategy to startups and growing companies that need more than performative culture statements. We’re talking about what happens when women are expected to keep performing through symptoms healthcare barely addresses, benefits rarely cover, and workplaces still refuse to plan for.

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Some of y’all are not building personal brands, you’re building AI-generated LinkedIn oatmeal (and not even a good flavor, and i do not like it)

I am so excited to be joined by Rhona Barnett-Pierce , founder of Workfluencer Media and host of the Workfluencer Podcast , where she helps Talent Acquisition and HR leaders grow their influence through authentic content, video, and storytelling.

With years leading TA teams across SaaS, media, and talent marketplaces, Rhona knows the difference between meaningful thought leadership and content made to game an algorithm. We’re diving into:

Because “just post consistently” is terrible advice if you don’t actually believe anything. And no, asking ChatGPT to rewrite the same lukewarm take 14 times is not a content strategy.

RSVP here.